Just Turn The Doorknob
"I knocked and the door opened. But I found that I had been knocking from the inside and I could've opened the door for myself." -Tehuti
Many moons ago, do you remember people asking you "What do you want to be when you grow up?"
Do you remember how easily and confidently you would respond? Most people would answer that question eagerly and they would say whatever came to mind.
Doubts and limitations were non-existent. You knew that you could do anything you wanted to do, didn't you? You didn't need anybody's approval or permission.
You knew you could cause things to happen by taking action. Psychologist Richard DeCharms called this phenomenon personal causation.
Personal causation is the initiation of behaviour intended to produce a change in an individual's environment.
After a certain age practically everyone begins to lose his or her sense of personal causation. In other words our sense of self-efficacy is undermined. Undermined by what?
Statements such as:
- This is too hard
- This costs too much
- I'm not good enough
- They don't want me to succeed anyway
- If only I had as much money as so and so
- I don't have that kind of luck
- I don't have the right looks
- Don't quit your day job
- Just be grateful that you have a job at all
- This is too good to be true
Etc., etc., etc. I deal with this everyday in my Hypnotherapy practice.
Statements like those are the roots of a "lack" mentality and a poverty consciousness.
Million Dollar Question: Is this too good to be true? No, it's not. It's happening to the right person - YOU.
It's a lack mentality and poverty consciousness that leave many people standing there knocking on the door waiting for someone to answer and open it for them.
Sooner or later someone bold, uninhibited, and assertive comes along and stands in front of the same door. But instead of only knocking, he or she reaches for the doorknob, turns it, and walks in. The door closes behind him or her and the people that are standing there start knocking again. They talk and complain amongst themselves about how some people get all the breaks.
They ask ridiculous questions like, "How come he's so lucky?" or "I wonder who she knows. Who gave her permission to go in?"
These people never realize that you don't need permission; you need initiative. You don't get a break; you create breaks.
To be self-empowered is to be responsible.
Be responsible for your actions.
Be responsible for your finances.
Be responsible for your well-being and your future.
My friend, whatever door you are knocking on, realize the doorknob is within reach. Just turn it and step into greatness.
The whole session appeared to be a waste of time.... nothing appeared to be working properly. I didn't lose consciousness. I didn't go into a trance, or at least I didn't think I did, and yet after that session, not only did I stop smoking but I actually enjoyed the process. Allen Carr (an extract from Easy Way to Stop Smoking).